I’ve come to the conclusion that one should never debate another unless there is a sincere care/love for the other person. Debating almost never changes hearts or minds. But a civil, factual debate with sincere love and care for the other creates mutual respect and a chance at agreement.
Wisdom is knowing when to shut up, when to debate, and when to fight.
There is no honor, however, in having to fight because you were too foolish to shut up or engage with caring when you had the chance.